Mother Nature

What a timing, Mother’s Day has recently passed and I am writing this blog to celebrate the other important Mother in all our lives that is Mother Nature. Our lives are evolving so fast and our technology has come a long way. Day by day we hear a lot about calamities near and far, thanks to our ability to communicate around the world in minutes. Shocked and surprised, yes indeed, but the question is what are we doing to solve or even try to understand what’s going on with the world that Mother Nature has given us to live. I feel as if there is a tantrum from above that is saying ‘Enough is Enough”. “I have given you this place, a beautiful place for you and your families to live, to enjoy and to grow but why are you destroying it. I have created a place that will allow for lasting memories that you won’t forget”.  Yet, what I see is all hurt that we inflict upon the land given to us by Mother Nature.

I recently traveled to the Philippines and I was amazed by how serious the people are contributing to the care and preservation of nature. Plastic shopping bags are being replaced with paper bags. No more plastic sent to land fills, no more plastic in the lakes, streams and oceans. They also clean up there rivers and lakes for everyone to enjoy. I amazed how things had changed .  Shopping over there I noticed If you have a lot of non plastic alternatives to carry groceries and retail products. They have a paper and fabric bags which can be purchased for a little cost that you can re-use it over and over again. Some use paper or cardboard boxes. Others simply do not provide bags forcing people to provide their own. Here very few retailers offer paper or cardboard boxes but most still supply plastic bags. It’s a small change but a small change can make a huge difference with our environment.  Imagine no more plastic bags floating in the air or caught in the branches of trees or ending up land fills. I can honestly say I have yet to walk outside a not see a plastic bag within 20 to 100 feet from my door. Sadly, I have not mentioned plastic wrappers or packaging. That is a whole conversation in itself.

I once came across an interview in which Melinda Gates was saying that each and every one of us has to contribute to the wellness of our world. It can not be only a few people, or rely on the government we have to do our ways to help the best we can to make it happen by making changes. Yes, this will change our lives and yes this might make things inconvenient or awkward at first but I totally agree with her view on this subject matter. Change does not have to radical or all at once. Simple changes over a period of months and years can occur that will allow all of us to adjust in our lives and in our business. Let’s face it the two major factors that prevent changes are our resistance to change because we are creatures of habit and the idea that such changes would disrupt business and possibly lead to economic problems. That’s not true. Economic changes occur all the time with both positive and negative effects may of which the average person never see or simply accept. Changing with proper planning and implementing a stable transition to change would cause a little but very manage change that would see prosperity and reduced costs. We spend more and more to have natural foods and water yet we don’t change the reason as to why were in that mess in the first place.



We are all living and enjoying this world that was given to us by Mother Nature and if we want it to be a world that we want to continue to love and enjoy for our families and for the generations of our families to come  then we all have to contribute in taking care of it. Fair enough right? But no, some of us don’t really care at all.

Talking about our world and Mother Nature. It’s no joke and its certainly not a cliché. We have to be serious and we have to take real action to changing and correcting our mistakes. Don’t wait until a disaster happens before you act on it.  You have heard in the news about pending flood, tsunamis and earthquakes. We take steps to prevent them, deal with the outcome and find ways to reduce the tragedies that they cause because we know how devastating they are.  So why are we not taking seriously, even ignoring it or worse denying it. When this becomes a serous problem, it will be too late to react and to costly to our lives and our world. We can all contribute in our own way. We all in together so maybe begin now before its too late. What are we hearing now, that the earth is getting hotter. It is becoming a problem now but we can take steps to change that. Simple steps. We are each one person each able to make a simple set of changes and if the 7 billion plus individuals work to take care the most important place in our world we will prosper, we will better our world and we will better our lives and the lives of those to come.

Here’s are a few simple things that we can do to start as individuals and as a society.

  1. Plants are natures filters. They help filter our air. Invest in seeds or bushes or trees. Grow them in your home, in your backyard or your balcony. Grow some vegetables or fruits. Growing them at home can reduce stress, reduce some of your grocery costs and add to air quality.
  2. Make it a habit to bring bags for your groceries. Plastic bags need to be removed as they are draining on our environment. Keep a few in your car in case you forget you can just get it from your car or buy this little pouch that you can use and very fashionable .
  3. Dispose of your garbage, recycle as much as possible, paper, plastic, glass and compost. Every community, township or city has these programs in place. There is much work and its an easy adjustment to anyone’s lifestyle.
  4. Always maintain cleanliness whether at home or at work. Throwing trash in a bin and not on the ground doesn’t seem like much but if 7 billion people didn’t throw trash on the ground but in the proper container’s world pollution would be reduced by a sizable volume.
  5. Give back to the Mother Nature. Ride a bike, walk, car pool, reduce using Air conditioning and conserve water. In Canada alone a population of just over 30 million people waste millions of dollars in house hold energy and water costs lost running equipment, appliance and taps. Simply look at as money that you are just throwing away that could have been spent towards bettering your life.
  6. Increase awareness of the danger of not taking care of the environment to our children and teach our children how to live better with less pollution and less waste. If we continue to ignore these issues, we won’t have a place to call home for future generations.
  7. Mandate our governments to impose on builders and developers mandatorily incorporate trees and green space in all developments with plants and trees to help decrease the noise and pollution as well as reduce the heat loads that are ever present in our concrete world. This would help to reduce some of or energy consumption and the pollution associated with generating that energy.
  8. Mandate Schools to included in their curriculum lessons on gardening to teach the youth the importance and establish the awareness of taking care of our world. Teaching children the simple joy of gardening will help to increase their respect for our world and impart and understanding of the consequences of not taking care of our world.
  9. Limit the over consumption and wasting of food. Many of us are throwing far too much food into garbage’s and composters. This is just adding to growing garbage problem and draining our resources.
  10. Water pollution, we need to stop, not reduce not make gradual changes but stop dumping garbage be it waste liquids, foods, chemicals, solid matter contaminants  into our lakes, streams and oceans. This includes our sewers. Most of our water comes from these places and have been recycled again and again and will continue to be recycled. Water is the one substance that we cannot live with out yet we go to great lengths to pollute it. Most of us go through life never having tasted pure in filter, non chemically treated water. It would be great if one day our world could go back to drinking just natural water.

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Health is Wealth

health is wealth

When a new year arrives, what thoughts come to our minds? Is it a new beginning, a new perspective, a renewed energy, a new direction possibly a new dream to achieve or a goal to reach? Lately I have been writing about life in general. Today I have decided that I am going to write about health. It sad to hear that people you know are suffering from various sickness, illness, diseases or have passed away. You cannot help not but to feel sad because this is a fact of life that occurs to all of us. Today, I want to briefly discuss how can we improve our health in little ways that can have a significant impact in our daily lives. I admit that I have been very busy and I often forget to take care of myself. It’s easy to gain weight with little to no effort, yet it’s takes a lot of work to lose weight, and continuous work to keep it off. Especially if your life style is somewhat unhealthy. So here are some tips to survive in the winter and the rest of year that can help us get our bodies return to a healthy state.

1. Drink Plenty of Water

Water for most of us is free and its healthy for you. The biggest benefit of drinking water is that it helps to remove the toxins in your body. Not unlike when you drink pop that can lead to various health issues due to the high levels of sugar, caffeine, chemicals, etc. Which place stress on your liver and kidneys that natural filter your body. Water is simple to process and doesn’t carry the additives that can be harsh on your liver and kidneys. With too many choices of liquids to drink out there our body is exposed to a lot of different toxins that we probably are not even aware of. Unfortunately, may of the liquids we enjoy are simply not good for us and are not good for our kidneys and liver. Water is safe and it has a lot of benefits. It is not fattening, it doesn’t raise your blood pressure, nor does it overwork your bodies organs as it is processed and absorbed.  

2. Eat Your Fruits & Vegetables – kale, carrots, oranges, apples etc.

Fruits and vegetables are needed in our daily diet as both provide nutrients and vitamins to our overall health. Remember when you were a child your parents would tell you “Don’t forget to eat your veggies” or “snack on some fruit”. Mom was right. Fruits and vegetables are an important factor in good health. Be mindful of what you eat because that is going to your body and for us the safest way to get nutrients for all our organs is to supply it with fruits, veggies and a balance or proteins and carbs. Humans are “omnivores” which means we need to eat both fruits, vegetables in greater quantity along with proteins such as meat and fish. There is a lot more that I could say here over several pages but I will leave that for another time.

3. Avoid Stress if possible

Avoid stress because it will only harm your body. Stress can lead to many ailments and sickness some of which can be fatal if not treated. We all have the potential to develop cancer cells in our body & associating yourself with stress might trigger the cancer cell to “wake up”. It is hard to avoid stress especially when we are surrounded by so many stressful issues in our day to day life and work. Every where you look there is always something going on that can potentially stress you. The key is to not to get stressed. That takes work, and practice. For starters think positive. Releasing stress through physical activities such as sports, fitness, yoga can help reduce stress and can help increase your bodies fitness routines. For some all it takes is someone to open up to. Others it’s a combination of ways. If these don’t work please look into new non destructive ways to deal your stress. There are vast resources on line and social programs everywhere that can help. People in general don’t like asking for help dealing with stress because they feel embarrassed, or that it wont work, etc… That tough stance will only hurt you and cause those around you pain seeing you suffer or being forced to suffer because you won’t get help. Ironically those who often fight against getting help in dealing with stress find that when they get the right help feel better, live healthy and live happier lives at home and work. They also have less health problems. Remember, stress is not something you try to be tough with, stress is something you fix, if not for yourself then for those who you care about and care about you.

4. Exercise

Topic… (see what fits in with your schedule… yoga, tai chi, walking, climbing, Zumba, the gym etc. One of the most important aspects of good health is to be able to exercise everyday and to stick to it regardless of your age. They say that our body is like a car it needs maintenance in order to last for a long time. Our body is the same, we need to exercise in order to be healthy. No doubt, exercise is a means to better you. Keep in mind that your routines need to evolve because your body will adapt to the routines. Vary your types of exercises, make changes so your is forced to change and in doing so your body will be healthier and you will be happier. There are many ways to exercise and various tools to exercise with. Not sure what’s right for you, check out your local gyms, community centers or search on line. Go for walk, call some friends, just get off that chair go outside, you wont regret it.

5. “Laughter is the best medicine”.

With our busy schedule from work to our family we forget to calm down a bit. Our own responsibilities are overwhelming that a simple good hardy laugh is hard to come by. Laughter is a great way to release the bottled-up pressures inside. Lighten up a bit. Stop taking everything so seriously including yourself. Laugh at yourself. Go be like a child again, tease each other whether its your husband, wife’s, girlfriends or boyfriend. If you’re so serious that you cannot laugh at that, then you are in serious trouble. Laughter really is the best medicine, Laughter increases muscle tone in your neck, chest and abdomen, and It can reduce your blood pressure as well as your levels of various stress hormones. Researches have shown this to be a fact. Laughter may also build your immune system against cancerous cells, boosting your white blood cells-especially the kind know as T-cells which help destroy tumor cells. Some types of white blood cells are also referred to as “happy cells” because of their immune benefits. Laughter also reduces the chance of respiratory infections through the use of your lungs when you laugh. When you’re stressed, you use only the top one third of your lungs, which limits the amount of oxygen you’re bringing into your system. If you notice when you laugh you take deeper breaths, utilizing your entire lungs that help to clean out your system. Laughter has been shown also to increase your brain functions which in turn increases memory and cognitive skills. People tend to remember conversations, lessons and life advice more when they have a good time with friends and family laughing together. When humor is involved things are lighter to discuss and don’t feeling awkward. Aside from that laughter is contagious. Like yawning, if you are in a room with laughter, people around you start to laugh and in no time, you can’t help but to laugh as well. Now, the question is how can you make yourself laugh? Watch a comedy, play different sounds, involve other people. Laughter is a positive thing and physiologically positive too. No harm can come from laughing except the laugh that you can’t control your bladder and tighten of the muscle. Just do it in moderation as any activity that you would do. Bottom line, try not to be so serious all the time, we need to have some laugh’s in our life because life is to serious to begin with…..Relax and take things not too seriously.

6. Moisturize (Aloe Vera)

Since we have 4 seasons in Canada our skins need to adjust as the seasons come and go. Our bodies become dry and itchy, so to protect that beautiful skin do not forget to moisturize in every season. Moisturize because it is important to your skin. Dry skin itches, and becomes a braised as you scratch it. This weakens your skin and makes you more susceptible to injuries or infections. Dry skin is weak skin. Keep it moist, check for irritations or discolouring. Remember if the moisturizer causes you to itch or burn see a doctor as there may be ingredients that can react to your skin.  

7. Be Social / Adapt a Dog

Remember the saying “No one is an Island’. Nowadays because of the advances in technology we tend to use the technology more often to meet people than actually going out to meet people. I understand the weather sometimes is a factor for you to not go out and have some fun time with friends and family, other times its more comfortable to stay home and use a computer or it feels safer. We are lacking the daily interactions and social activities in the world, with that said you tend to lose the opportunity to gain confidence in yourself. There’s a strong link between the level of social interaction we have in our lives and our memory as we age. Does having a lot of friends protect us from declining brain health or do people with declining brain health withdraw from their social activities? In answering this question, a lot of experiments have been conducted on this issue and they found that the people who go out and have fun with friends and family tend to have reduced the decline in their brain functions than those living like an old married couple. If you are single adopting a good companion like a dog or cat will be beneficial for you because you establishe a bond between both of you that cultivates the social brain interaction through activities such as meeting others in the park, training you pet, even the simple activity as talking to your pet. Social ties help to preserve our memory.

8. Enjoy the Sun

To avoid being sad and depressed we have to enjoy walking in the sun or taking vitamin D. But if you are like me who wants to avoid pills as much as possible, the sun is the best defence for depression. Don’t you notice when you go to a sunny country like Mexico, Cuba, or the Dominican Republic, people there are very happy despite the hardships around them. With exposure to the sun it uplifts your mood. However be moderate in your exposure and be sure to use sun screen As over exposure can cause harm. E.g. Skin cancer. I always believed in natural ways to get a tan like walking on the beach, spending time outdoors in the parks. Running outdoors is really good for your mood and overall well being. Canada has four seasons and we have to make an effort to balance what’s lacking in each season especially in winter, have you heard about the “Blue Days” were people are more likely to experience depression because the night is longer than the day resulting in less natural sun light. If you are like me and love the sun and want to avoid Blue Days, plan your vacation during this time a take a trip to a warm sunny resort. You will feel so much better for it.

9. Sleep

Sleep is an important fact of human activity. This happens allowing your body and your system to rejuvenate itself, rest both physically and mentally. Now a days, we spend less and less of our life sleeping because of all our responsibilities in life. Don’t think of it as a waste of time though; it can be very useful. Big chunks of our life are spent standing in lines and worrying about the things we can do nothing about. Now that is relatively useless. The average person should sleep between 8 to 9 hours a day to maintain an effective immune system, keep emotions on a relatively even keel, be physically well and mentally sharp and to increase our reflexes and coordination in top shape. Did you know that poor sleeping is linked to being overweight. Lots of scientists say that getting too little sleep can cause you the same problems as too much sleep. So how can we get the right sleep and enough sleep.

  1. Physically tire yourself, often people are mentally tired and feel the same way but do not get better sleep than those who are physically tired. Fact: if you walk through the hills with a full pack on your back will sleep better at night.
  2. Relaxation techniques such as yoga help. Slow steady breathing is the starting point.
  3. Play with numbers count then subtract, add, multiply using just using your mind.
  4. Close your eyes and think about great things, dream or fantasize a little maybe a sunny beach in Mexico, the lobster in prince Edward. Watching a sunrise or sunset.
  5. Have a treat. Maybe a nice glass of red wine or sitting by a fire place just before settling down. But please again in moderation, one glass is fine.

10.Be thankful.

You know the saying “Save the best for last”. Indeed, this last one is the most important thing in this subject. There are hundreds of books that refer to this last topic Be thankful. In all we do and the life we choose no matter how complicated it is. Always be thankful whether it is a good or a bad day. At least we experience and know the difference between them and in turn we can form better decisions regarding our actions on a daily basis. No one can escape the good and bad in life, be you rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy alone or surround by fiends and family. All of us have experience it. At the end of the day what matters the most is the journey and in that journey every step that we take should be filled with gratitude ready for us to embrace it.

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LOVE who are you?

LOVE, who are you?


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LOVE, who are you?

How do you define LOVE? Do you see or have you met LOVE? Have you seen LOVE? I paused and realized the word itself is so broad and bold as it is. I have seen different forms of it, but nothing comes close to defining it in one word. Maybe, at the end of this article I will finally come close to describing who is LOVE. Regardless of whether you believe it or not, LOVE does exist! LOVE should be celebrated. We’re lucky that every year we are reminded of this little four-letter word that has encompassed us so much.

L-O-V-E, Feb 14.  I know LOVE is important. What is it we want from LOVE? or how do we find LOVE, is it called Cupid? Who brings you and another together? Or he is just a symbol of hope that good things will come no matter where you are in life?

This beautiful poem.

LOVE is patient.

LOVE is kind.

LOVE does not envy or boast.

LOVE it is not proud yet fills you with pride.

LOVE is not angry and keeps no records of past mistakes.

LOVE does not delight in evil.

LOVE rejoices in the truth.

Some of you who are reading this would probably say, what on earth is this? lol

But hang-on a minute ………………… this might be a good read for you and if not, ahhh well at least I tried. It might open you up to something new.

All I ask is to please keep reading.

You probably say I have no clue what love truly is or don’t know a thing about “LOVE”. I’m sorry to disappoint you but I do. Every year were given a date to remember and celebrate what I call “LOVE”. Yet for many of us, we are so busy dealing with our own responsibilities between home and work that we forget this remarkable day that was set aside to honour LOVE. Is LOVE something as him or her or an it? I don’t think so. LOVE is all and more. So why is it important to find LOVE and celebrate it ???

I’ll first start with what we know of the history of the date, FEB 14 .

I have taken this from the Wikipedia website.


”Valentine's Day, also called Saint Valentine's Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine,[1] is celebrated annually on February 14. Originating as a Western Christian feast day honoring one or two early saints named Valentinus, Valentine's Day is recognized as a significant cultural, religious, and commercial celebration of romance and romantic love in many regions around the world, although it is not a public holiday in any country.

Martyrdom stories associated with various Valentines connected to February 14 are presented in martyrologies,[2] including a written account of Saint Valentine of Rome imprisonment for performing weddings for soldiers, who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians persecuted under the Roman Empire.[3] According to legend, during his imprisonment Saint Valentine restored sight to the blind daughter of his judge,[4] and before his execution he wrote her a letter signed "Your Valentine" as a farewell.[5]

The day first became associated with romantic love within the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the 14th century, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. In 18th-century England, it evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines"). Valentine's Day symbols that are used today include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.[6] In Europe, Saint Valentine's Keys are given to lovers "as a romantic symbol and an invitation to unlock the giver’s heart", as well as to children, in order to ward off epilepsy (called Saint Valentine's Malady).


There are so many stories behind the origin of Valentines Day and the superstitious beliefs surrounding this day. One thing is for sure that at least I know is that we should celebration Love, regardless of who you are or where you are or what kind of love you have, be it new found love, long time love, the love between family or friends, pets or life itself it does not matter. What matters the most is to celebrate it with whom you love. This kind of day is truly one to be celebrated especially with all the things going on in this world. Wouldn’t you agree? We need more of this than a cup of coffee, although like most people I do love coffee, so yeah coffee will do too. : )

Every year we should celebrate this because this is a day that you acknowledge that you are loved and have shared your love to someone or something. Celebrate it! Whether it is simple or extravagant. Get out and have a romantic dinner with your loved ones, family or anyone you feel love for or who has a special place in your heart. If money is an issue stay home try a new recipe, invite that special someone have some wine and put a nice clothes or new pajamas, just be creative put some romantic songs that both you or your family would love. Have some laughs. See a movie or share some passion together. Take a walk on the beach or a park, any place will do. If it is snowing like now, have a candle light dinner where the soft glow turns it into a romantic moment. Grab a few logs and fire-up that old fire place with a little wine, just relax and enjoy the day for this is about you and LOVE that you want to share. All that matters are that you spend time together having an unforgettable moment whose memory can last a lifetime before tomorrow when the reality of life returns. At least you say once a year you were able to escape the chaos and be treated like Royalty. In this moment let down your guard and with an open heart be ready to give everything you can for LOVE and be ready to take in all that you can share.

Through that LOVE the universe that we live in is made better, brightens our shared world and reminds us of the joy in the lives that we live regardless of difficulties and pains that we encounter. LOVE is everywhere around us and in everything we have and do. LOVE is a memory, a smell, a sound, and a touch. We do not need to hide from it, and we do not need to escape it. Instead welcome it, embrace it and except it for what it is without conditions. True LOVE will find you and you will find LOVE. Most importantly LOVE does not discriminate regardless of who you are. If I were to sum it up, my definition of LOVE in one word it would be GOOD! Its inside of each of us. Whoever meets LOVE finds happiness, the kind that money can’t buy. LOVE is someone who has your back, someone who will be there for you whether you are old and wrinkled, rich or poor, in sickness and health. These are words we all have heard, words that we know and most importantly bind us together at an important time in our lives. They are words to mark a new beginning in our lives. A beginning in which we say we want to be more. A beginning that says that you are not alone. That together two individuals have become one and one individual has become two. It is that LOVE that creates happiness. That LOVE that creates life and in doing so brings forth new life. That can only be described as GOOD

I have found it in my life. I have found it in my family. It is what gives me my faith, my hopes and dreams. LOVE is what makes my day in the people around me, the experiences I pursue, the dreams that I chase and work to pursue. I am thankful for the LOVE in my life. I am thankful for the LOVE I have received throughout my life and I look forward to more LOVE that will come into my life.

Cheers to LOVE everyone. Whoever it is, what ever it is, where ever it is, together let’s celebrate LOVE every year with those in our lives. LOVE does not pick a day, it is there all the time waiting for us to embrace and be delighted by it. If we can do it every day that would be awesome.

Sit in a quite place hold your hand close to your heart and close your eyes, then whisper softly to LOVE what you want to say, you never know it might come true. If you meet LOVE… shout out and say I LOVE, YOU! And in turn it will return to you with those same simple words I LOVE YOU.

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Karma’s A Bitch.

It’s my day off, it doesn’t happen a lot especially when you’re in business. I’m trying to wind down while looking at the backyard, thinking what’s next? Just the thought of it makes me tired so I decided to sit down on the couch, grab the remote control to search for a distraction. As I’m flipping the channels something intrigues me. This actor said something like “karma’s a bitch” ….

I paused and start listening, it wakes my curiosity and I decided to continue watching. I found myself asking what is this? Some kind a non-sense show that will end up badly or was it something different. While I was contemplating my thoughts, I saw that the show was titled “9-1-1″.


I have no connection with the show, but this episode made me curious. I ended up finishing the episode titled “ Karma’s a bitch and oh boy, I was not disappointed with the ending at all. I am now following the show on a regular basis. In my opinion I think that the show has a lot to say about real issues in life. You will succumb to the reality that none of us are different, at the end of the day, you learn something new all the time. All I can say we are just trying to survive the chaos that occurs everyday.

For me the episode is telling us that every action we take whether it is good or bad there’s always a balance that comes from it. The episode is reminding us that we should be careful with our decisions, actions and how we deal with everyone around us. Always think were not the only person only living on this planet because no one really knows what’s in store for us in the future ….

All my worries started to fade … concentrating on the show had almost occupied my timeless zone…… I continue to watch. I wanted to know what this was all about and to my surprise it was exactly what I needed. I saw people hurting people without even being given a chance to comprehend where they were coming from. I have seen greed cover some of us like a dark cloud in the sky as if there was no tomorrow. All they care is the gain not the consequences of their actions. We witness some people taking advantage of older people because they think they know better. We have seen people culturally hurt by the same people they grew up with. We have seen kids bully others because they thinks it’s cool. Life is full of suprises but those are the times that we learn to be stronger and mindful of our actions.

Be mindful of the words or actions you choose because there are things you can not take back once its said or done. A co-worker of mine once told me, because I was struggling between morally good and socially correct way to deal with other people. She said to me go by this rule” If you don’t have anything good to say just keep it to yourself” because it might hurt without you knowing it. And it will be too late to apologize. All you can do is to just move on and hope for the best and learn the lesson along the way for it will come again and repeat itself. Just remember, nobody’s perfect! And she was right!

I’m amazed that if you look at what is happening in our world right now you can really relate to this show, the struggles, the challenges, and the emotions we invest into it. I’m sure all of us at some point have experienced this.  We all have those experiences in life that we become the victim, some of us get away with it and some of us just merely forget about it because it is too much to bare and hope that time heals all wounds.  Letting go is one thing, but forgiveness is the hardest part of it. No one wants to be in this situation but here is what I think are the best approach’s the next time this happens. Life is a constant learning.

  1. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Respect, dignity and compassion are key.
  2. Take a walk in someone else shoes to understand them better.
  3. Spread the love not the hate.
  4. Communicate not dominate so that we all have a fair chance in life.


How to Catch a Monkey

lettinggoIt is not what you think, Read on…..

It was Sunday again and there were a lot of people inside and the service was starting. The service continued at the same pace and in the same style as before.  I felt as though the service would be the same as last week. I tried to keep awake but the fact I had slept around 2 am wasn’t helping. Then my ears suddenly caught the Deacon referencing in his sermon “The story of How to catch a Monkey”. My curiosity arose, my attention was fixed on the Deacons words. My desire to nod off faded as I started to listen, I was awake, I wanted to hear the story.

The glimpse of the story was describing a simple point, that for you to catch a monkey it was not a complex procedure.

He said that a monkey upon finding food would not let go of it, once he had put its fingers around it. He will be trapped and you will able to catch him. If he bite in to the trap you set for him to be caught, his life will never be the same again. He cannot move on or go forward. It was important for him to get the fruit you entrapped him into than anything else in his world. If this apply to our daily lives, to compare in life we hold on too much on the materials things that has temporary fix for happinness. Not realizing the things that matter the most.

In life,

We are like that same as the monkey in this story.we tend not to let go of the possessions, feelings or emotions that we feel are overly important to us. We fall into the trap of being stuck, not able to move on because we are not willing to let go, and because we tell ourselves that we cannot let go. In doing so we are in a cage. A cage that we have created. A cage only we can set our self free from by simply letting go. That trap doesn’t stop there. We blame others for our mishaps and failures. We are quick to blame others rather than to look at our selves and examine what actions should have been taken to not get caught up in the “trap”.

In this metaphor

The monkey represents us and the results of getting caught is the life we chose in which we are not willing to release our grip. We hold on to too many things in our lives. We end up getting stuck and not able to see the world around our selves. Like the monkey in its desire to grab the fruit, the monkey forgets to look around to see what matters to it, to know if he is safe and recognize that its ok to let go of the fruit. Instead the monkey is caught. We hold on too much to one thing, a person or a belief, missing the opportunities in life. Its easy to say, “let go”, “give it up so you can move on”, “its not important”. For those who have not been or who have not experienced or lived in other peoples shoes its not so easy.

I have had those moments

I have been the one to say “let go”. I have also been the one told to “let go’. It can be so difficult and yet it can be so simple. If you are having difficulty in letting go, then start by just backing off, reduce time spent on dwelling on it. Don’t act on it. Take a step back, take a breath, take two, take three. Just let the situation unfold and you may be pleasently surprised how it turns out. Allow yourself to calm down, allow yourself a chance to look at it from a different point of view. Hear what others around you are saying. Set your emotions aside and clarity will begin to appear. It will not be instant, and it may mean making changes. But changes are how we grow, how we evolve and how we learn to be better individuals.

For example:

Our children. We have had far more experience then they have had as we have lived longer. We have suffered, we have succeeded, we have felt pains and felt happiness. Yet because they are our children we tend to protect them too much because we believe that we know better. We don’t let them do all the things they want because we have experienced it for ourselves and so they rebel more from us. The more they rebel the tighter we try to hold onto them. We don’t want them to get hurt, we don’t want them to suffer. Yet how did we learn, did we listen to our parents? Did we not rebel or push away because felt like that piece of fruit being held tighter? We need to let go. We need to relax our grip. It doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean not caring.

What it means….

is that we allow them to move forward and we assure them that we will be there to help, we will be there to advise, and we will be there to catch them if they fall. So, they can learn for themselves and learn to trust our judgement.The same can be said about an object or a feeling. Things have different valves to different people as do beliefs. Things can be replaced while beliefs only leave you when you end the belief. Are the lives around you, the family, the friends or your personal safety less important than a possession? Are you willing to relinquish everything for a possession? Would that possession be able to help you, care for you, see you through good times or bad? It would not.

The Deacon had related though his story that we often hold on to something that we perceive as very important to us, that we forget the other people around us that are important to us. I saw the truth in the Deacons story, we tend to not let go of the things that we love so much that we forget that to fully understand we have to it LET GO! In doing so we tend to care less with small stuff and deal with people and issues that matter the most. We start to enjoy life better, involve ourselves in life more and being to discover how wonderful life can be along with all the lives that interact with our own. We truly live life to the fullest. This is the truth that I saw in the Deacons simple story, this is what woke me, and this is what I want to share with you.

How do you deal with Change?


Change Coffee Time


Change is like the winds of circumstances, blowing on us all in an unending flow that touches each of our lives. It’s one thing to create change. It’s another thing and often unavoidable, for change to occur you when you least expected it.

We all have experienced the different faces of change. Yet some of us reach to the end while others don’t. What guides us to different destinations is determined by the way we choose our path. Everyone thinks differently. What we choose and act on determines where each of us arrives.

Unexpected events happen to all of us.

We have frustrations and challenges. We all have reversals and those moments when, despite our best plans and efforts, things fall apart. Challenging circumstances are not events reserved for the less fortunate, the uneducated or the extremely poor. The rich and the poor have marital problems. The rich and the poor have the same challenges that can lead to financial ruin and personal despair.
In the end, it is not what happens that determines the quality of our lives, it is what we choose to do when we discover that the wind has changed directions.

When things change, we must change. We must struggle to our feet again and reset the boat to steer us forward to the destination of our own deliberate choosing. The set of the boat-how we think and how we respond – has a far greater capacity to alter our lives than any challenges we face. How quickly and responsibly we react to adversity is far more important than the adversity itself. Once we discipline ourselves to understand this, we will finally and willingly conclude that the great challenge of life is to control the process of our thinking.

Learning to reset the boat with changing winds rather than permitting ourselves to be blown in a direction you did not purposely choose requires the development of a whole new discipline. It involves going to work on establishing a powerful, personal philosophy that will help to influence in a positive way all that you do, think and decide.

If you can succeed, the result will be a positive change in your income, lifestyle, and relationships.